If We Are Constantly Blaming Others, We Will Never Mature In Christ

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How often do you hear someone say “They told me it was okay to do it” , “I got that bad grade because my teacher doesn’t like me”, or “I can’t believe I didn’t get that promotion, my boss has it in for me!”  The list could go on and on with excuses and putting blame on someone else.

Blaming another goes as far back as Adam and Eve, when God had found they had eaten the forbidden fruit.

Genesis 3:12Genesis 3:12
English: King James Version (1611) - KJV

12 And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.  

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  Then the man said, “The woman who You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.”

Are we to assume that Adam didn’t know what he was doing?  Nonsense.  He was very much aware of what he doing.  He heard God’s instruction just as Eve had, although he made the conscious choice to join her.  He could have easily told her that what she was doing was wrong and that he didn’t want the fruit.  But, he didn’t, and they both paid the consequences.

At some point in our life, we have to accept the responsibility for our thoughts and actions, and be accountable instead of shifting blame to others.  Living a Christian life, a basic lesson that we must learn is to take responsibility for our choices.  We cannot continuously blame others.  In doing so, we are unable to confess our sins because we do not own them; we have put the blame on someone else, and therefore unable to receive forgiveness from God.  How unfortunate it would be to be unable to experience the joy and peace that comes with forgiveness.

1John 1:8-9John 1:8-9
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8 He was not that Light, but was sent to bear witness of that Light. 9 That was the true Light, which lighteth every man that cometh into the world.  

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 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.  If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

So, when you feel the urge to point the finger at someone else for your error, remember that  you have a personal Advocate with God.   Jesus died on the cross to wash away all of your sin, to cleanse you daily when you fall short and make mistakes.  There’s no need any longer to blame another.  If we are constantly blaming others, we will never mature in Christ.

Written by Mary Hudak-Collins

Mary Hudak-Collins

4 thoughts on “If We Are Constantly Blaming Others, We Will Never Mature In Christ

  1. galenpearl

    This is such an important post. Blaming and victimhood go together. As long as we see ourselves as victims, we will look for a wrongdoer to blame. Giving up blame frees us from being victims. Great post.

  2. Susan Deborah

    Quite right. It is so very easy to shift the blame and pass the buck but then no matter how much we can cheat the world, our inner man knows and God knows. The gnawing feeling will never leave and it will be absolutely impossible to have quiet time in the mornings. If one is in Christ, then one can never pass the buck if the mote is in our eye.

    Thanks Mary for this remainder today.

    Joy always,

  3. Martha Orlando

    Sadly, this is exactly what we are witnessing from our elected (and supposed) leaders – everyone is pointing fingers at each other and not addressing the real problems our country faces right now. To me, this reflects just how far we have drifted away from God and living Christian lives. Taking responsibility for our sins is imperative, but when one doesn’t believe in sin, how can he/she even know he/she needs forgiveness?
    Extremely thought-provoking post, Mary!
    Blessings and love!

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