Are You Troubled By Your Anger?

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Anger

Are you troubled by your anger?  Do you find yourself easily loosing your temper?  Is the stress at home or work driving you to the ‘end of your rope’, leaving you feeling like you want to explode at the next person that speaks to you?

You’re not alone.  Whether you anger is justified or not, it is a very real feeling.  You may find comfort in know that even Moses got angry when the Isrealites were dishonoring God.  Throughout the Bible, we see several instances of both justified and unjustified anger [ 1 Samuel 20:34; 11 Samuel 20:34; 1
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34 So Jonathan arose from the table in fierce anger, and did eat no meat the second day of the month: for he was grieved for David, because his father had done him shame. The First Book of Samuel otherwise called The First Book of the Kings 1 1 Now there was a certain man of Ramathaimzophim, of mount Ephraim, and his name was Elkanah, the son of Jeroham, the son of Elihu, the son of Tohu, the son of Zuph, an Ephrathite: 2 And he had two wives; the name of the one was Hannah, and the name of the other Peninnah: and Peninnah had children, but Hannah had no children. 3 And this man went up out of his city yearly to worship and to sacrifice unto the LORD of hosts in Shiloh. And the two sons of Eli, Hophni and Phinehas, the priests of the LORD, were there. yearly: Heb. from year to year 4 And when the time was that Elkanah offered, he gave to Peninnah his wife, and to all her sons and her daughters, portions: 5 But unto Hannah he gave a worthy portion; for he loved Hannah: but the LORD had shut up her womb. worthy: or, double 6 And her adversary also provoked her sore, for to make her fret, because the LORD had shut up her womb. provoked: Heb. angered 7 And as he did so year by year, when she went up to the house of the LORD, so she provoked her; therefore she wept, and did not eat. when...: or, from the time that she, etc: Heb. from her going up 8 Then said Elkanah her husband to her, Hannah, why weepest thou? and why eatest thou not? and why is thy heart grieved? am not I better to thee than ten sons? 9 So Hannah rose up after they had eaten in Shiloh, and after they had drunk. Now Eli the priest sat upon a seat by a post of the temple of the LORD. 10 And she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed unto the LORD, and wept sore. in...: Heb. bitter of soul 11 And she vowed a vow, and said, O LORD of hosts, if thou wilt indeed look on the affliction of thine handmaid, and remember me, and not forget thine handmaid, but wilt give unto thine handmaid a man child, then I will give him unto the LORD all the days of his life, and there shall no razor come upon his head. a man...: Heb. seed of men 12 And it came to pass, as she continued praying before the LORD, that Eli marked her mouth. continued...: Heb. multiplied to pray 13 Now Hannah, she spake in her heart; only her lips moved, but her voice was not heard: therefore Eli thought she had been drunken. 14 And Eli said unto her, How long wilt thou be drunken? put away thy wine from thee. 15 And Hannah answered and said, No, my lord, I am a woman of a sorrowful spirit: I have drunk neither wine nor strong drink, but have poured out my soul before the LORD. of a sorrowful...: Heb. hard of spirit 16 Count not thine handmaid for a daughter of Belial: for out of the abundance of my complaint and grief have I spoken hitherto. complaint: or, meditation 17 Then Eli answered and said, Go in peace: and the God of Israel grant thee thy petition that thou hast asked of him. 18 And she said, Let thine handmaid find grace in thy sight. So the woman went her way, and did eat, and her countenance was no more sad. 19 And they rose up in the morning early, and worshipped before the LORD, and returned, and came to their house to Ramah: and Elkanah knew Hannah his wife; and the LORD remembered her. 20 Wherefore it came to pass, when the time was come about after Hannah had conceived, that she bare a son, and called his name Samuel, saying, Because I have asked him of the LORD. when...: Heb. in revolution of days Samuel: that is, Asked of God 21 And the man Elkanah, and all his house, went up to offer unto the LORD the yearly sacrifice, and his vow. 22 But Hannah went not up; for she said unto her husband, I will not go up until the child be weaned, and then I will bring him, that he may appear before the LORD, and there abide for ever. 23 And Elkanah her husband said unto her, Do what seemeth thee good; tarry until thou have weaned him; only the LORD establish his word. So the woman abode, and gave her son suck until she weaned him. 24 And when she had weaned him, she took him up with her, with three bullocks, and one ephah of flour, and a bottle of wine, and brought him unto the house of the LORD in Shiloh: and the child was young. 25 And they slew a bullock, and brought the child to Eli. 26 And she said, Oh my lord, as thy soul liveth, my lord, I am the woman that stood by thee here, praying unto the LORD. 27 For this child I prayed; and the LORD hath given me my petition which I asked of him: 28 Therefore also I have lent him to the LORD; as long as he liveth he shall be lent to the LORD. And he worshipped the LORD there. lent him: or, returned him, whom I have obtained by petition he shall...: or, he whom I have obtained by petition shall be returned  

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Samuel 17:28; 1 Samuel 18:81 Samuel 18:8
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8 And Saul was very wroth, and the saying displeased him; and he said, They have ascribed unto David ten thousands, and to me they have ascribed but thousands: and what can he have more but the kingdom? displeased him: Heb. was evil in his eyes  

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Anger can be dangerous if handled in a sinful way.

Proverbs 29:22Proverbs 29:22
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22 An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression.  

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 An angry man stirs up strife,

And a furious man abounds in transgression.

By nature, anger is cruel.  As Christians, we need to discipline ourselves to handle our anger in a constructive method.  Angry words are like nails: once nailed in, there is always a mark.  Once these words are spewed from our mouths, it is very difficult to take them back.  In most cases, your words will always be remembered.  If we pray for discipline and control of our tongue, we are putting our trust in God.  He encourages us to turn away from anger and to trust God to carry out His judgement.

Psalm 37:8,9Psalm 37:8,9
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8 Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil. 9 For evildoers shall be cut off: but those that wait upon the LORD, they shall inherit the earth.  

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 Cease from anger; and forsake wrath; Do not fret-it only causes harm.  For evildoers shall be cut off; But those who wait on the Lord, They shall inherit the earth.

Personally, controlling anger is one of my greatest challenges.  Some days, it doesn’t take much to ‘ruffle my feathers‘.  Do you find yourself easily angered? Does it ever seem that others just know the perfect time to ‘upset your apple cart’?  James 1:19James 1:19
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19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:  

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is a verse I am learning to keep close to my heart.

Anger

Having control over our temperament is frequently addressed in the Bible, which shows this is a commonality for all of God’s children.

Written by Mary Hudak-Collins

Mary Hudak-Collins

19 thoughts on “Are You Troubled By Your Anger?

  1. Dangerous Linda

    Hi, Mary! ~

    My first visit to your new site! Wonderful!

    I’m pretty slow to anger. If I get angry at anybody it’s usually myself. My vision board and other forms of Celestial Visioning help me keep my mind in the right place 😉

    1. mhudakcollins Post author

      Welcome Linda 🙂 I’m so glad that you could drop by. By any means that we can control our tongues is of good fortune…in the long run, it helps us to keep from sinning and from offending others 🙂

  2. Dangerous Linda

    for myself, i don’t believe in sin and i’m not motivated by not offending others. i didn’t mean to imply it helps me control my tongue, as my policy is that if i keep my mind focused on God’s will then i don’t have to worry about what my tongue says — hah!

    specifically, it seems, perhaps, you are speaking of controlling anger by keeping ahold of your anger so it doesn’t hurt others. i’m speaking of controlling anger by realizing everything is exactly as it should be so there’s nothing to be angry about in the first place. very different (opposite?) perspectives, i think.

    thank you for sharing your POV on this important topic 😉

    1. mhudakcollins Post author

      Me bad…I forgot the ‘often’ in from [often] offending others. Offending others is only a consequence of our anger-induced outbursts. Specifically, I was trying to get across how difficult it is sometimes, to control one’s anger, even when doing your best as a Christian to live by the Scripture, and that even though it may be a normal response to events that occur in life, we must heed our natural instincts and rely on our spiritual strengths.
      I do agree with you on that everything is exactly as it should be, although I believe that God puts trials and tribulations in our path to test our strength in our faith. I think we were both looking at the post as it was written, but giving two distinct perspectives 🙂
      I am curious Linda though…I’m not familiar with how one could believe in God without believing in sin? If you believe in God, then you believe in the Bible? The word ‘sin’ is mentioned approximately 448 times throughout the King James Version, and makes great reference to the punishment of sin.

      1. Dangerous Linda

        ahhhh! mary, you caught me! maybe instead of saying i don’t believe in sin i should have said i believe that sin means simply ‘missing the mark’ or something like that.

        i love the bible and i also realize it has been ‘interpreted’ for us by people who may not have the same motives, morals or standards that i do and whose interpretation may be skewed in such ways. i work hard to read the bible intuitively and get the true meaning god has for me personally.

        also, the word ‘god’ may mean something different to me than it means for others. i use ‘god’ for ease of communication when i probably really mean to say, “god, goddess, universal truth, higher power, spirit of life…” or any number of other concepts.

        my favorite description of god is when moses asks his name and he says, “i am that i am.” that’s the god i know and love.

  3. Bongo

    Linda…Please forgive me…I have a question…I do not wish to come off judgmental so please don’t view it as that… may I ask how can you believe in the word of God/ The Bible and still practice in Celestial Visioning… I really am interested in understanding your point of view …. As always……XOXOXOXOXO

  4. Bongo

    Linda… I’ll try LOL.. I am terrible at getting my thoughts across at the worst times… ok as a Christian I believe in the Bible and have Jesus Christ as my personal savoir… (note : i am not perfect and struggle with my faith daily) but and, I wish i was good at relating to specific scriptures, but I am not…. God tells us to worship him and only him.. and things of the supernatural of any sort we should turn away from…. (I have at many times in my life while I was searching to fill a hole in my heart… tested different churches.. different religions … cults included.. as well as Goth .. and a love of anything super natural) Now as I am still growing and maturing In Christ I can not understand other beliefs .. yet i respect each.. I believe that every human being has a right to believe however they want and that I have no right nor desire to judge or attack that…. I know that you read a bible.. I know you have a rosary.. I even remember you posting about prayer beads.. so in my mind this all conflicts… (I hope I am making some kind of sense here)I really am just curious how you can practice if you will.. celestial visioning and the word of God…I can’t wrap my head around it and I am trying.. I really want to understand… (excuse my rambling LOL) As always…XOXOXOXOXOXO

    1. mhudakcollins Post author

      Corinne, When I feel anger brewing inside, I feel I need to pray. I have a beautiful book on God’s promises that addresses anger and offers many scripture that help me deal with it on a personal level. It does involve taking a deeper look within myself at the ‘root’ of the anger itself and the resolution. Unfortunately, for some, they allow anger to control them and their actions, therefore affecting many who are in their path of life.

  5. Corinne Rodrigues

    Mary and Bonnie – I just read the comments and I’m am a little troubled by two statements, one from Mary which says: “If you believe in God, then you believe in the Bible?” Now if that’s a question to Linda -then it’s for her to answer of course. But I’m wondering about the millions of people in my country who believe in God but haven’t read the Bible. To them God is as real as He is to you and to me.
    And Bonnie – I’m not sure how being a Christian and using a Rosary have to be two separate things. Does that mean anyone using a Rosary is not a Christian? If so, then I’m not one? 😉

    1. mhudakcollins Post author

      Corinne, welcome. I’m so happy that you stopped by 🙂 This topic of anger, and even more so the ‘comment section’ sure has been an area of debate. I remember my mother telling me as a young child to never discard anyone’s religious (used very broadly) or political views. The comment that I left for Linda was based on past conversations that we have had regarding ‘reading the Bible’ and the statement was for her specifically because I was confused. I believe that we are not on this earth to judge anyone, and that everyone should be considered a God-fearing individual until we are told different. I believe that a person’s faith is much different than religion and that we have great issues in our world today because everyone interprets God and His Word differently. Myself, I believe that Jesus Christ died on the cross for my sins and I have accepted Him into my heart. I believe that He will return for His followers and we will have eternal life with God. I cannot comment on other faiths around the world as I’m not an expert. My primary focus here on this site is sharing the scripture written in the Bible for anyone who is interested. If in any way my comment offended you personally, I do apologize. I’m writing according to my faith and my beliefs. You know that I love you and welcome your insightful comments.
      On your second question regarding the Rosary…I can’t answer that question, as I’ll repeat again, God didn’t put me on this earth to judge anyone. I have had a winding road of religion throughout my life. As a child, I was raised a strict Catholic. I remember having a Mass book and my Rosary, attending Catechism each Sat. morning and going to Church on Sundays. It always seemed very formal and ritualized to me as a child. I was baptized as an infant, made my Communion, and was Confirmed. In my early teens, I went to the confessional before Mass. During the Mass, the Priest repeated almost verbatim what I had said in the confessional, and then began to hammer parents for not being aware of what their children were doing. This was hard for me to swallow as I felt that he was pointing me out on the spot. Needless to say, I didn’t return. My experience with the Catholic Church was not a good one and I began to seek out another way to get to know God. I couldn’t understand why I was always being told that the only way to get to God was by going through the Priest. Now, I realize that was their belief. For me, I felt there was something more out there. I then attended a Protestant Church with my best friend. That was quite the contrast to the Catholic Church! Everyone was hugging everyone, the sermon was open and refreshing, and it was there that I learned about the Bible.
      Over the years, I have been at several churches, and have shared in much doctrine. I have landed in a place now that I feel God has brought me to. I feel He is using me in a big way, although much is ‘behind the scenes’ as I call it. Either way, I’m very happy and content in my faith. I feel I have come full circle and am now complete.
      I do appreciate your questions, and I hope that you will continue to visit and ask questions that come to mind ♥♥♥

  6. Corinne Rodrigues

    Thank you for your response, Mary. You have not offended me personally and neither has Bonnie. I am a Catholic who has been down a very different path. When I was 16 I was exposed to the Charismatic Renewal which was very much a part of the Catholic Church but a new movement in it. I received a Baptism of the Spirit and was part of an evangelical movement of the Church for many, many years. We learned to have a deep personal faith and yet love the Church and have a very strong fellowship too (of the kind you mentioned). Personally, I still see the roots of my faith experience playing out in my life. However, I have learned to move beyond evangelizing to embrace the beauty of every religion while still being a believing, practicing Christian.
    I’m so happy for you that you have found your ‘place’ again. I do believe that God leads each of us down different paths at various times in our life. Presently I’m in a place where I believe very strongly in the deep love of God for me, know that He is calling me to be ME, and content that I don’t have to do anything to win His favor or grace except to Be.

  7. Bongo

    Hi Corrine…Let me try and explain… as Mary has said and I have said I do not wish to offend anyone.. i wish to learn how others believe.. I respect each persons right to believe what they choose.. all i was asking about the rosary was how does that connect.. in lindas belief.. i really have tried to understand but i can’t get my head around it…. I believe that people around the world who believe in God but do not know Gods word (the bible) that one day they will.. all ears on earth will hear Gods word and then will make the choice to accept Jesus as their personal savoir…. now for me I stand firm in this belief.. but I know others stand firm in their beliefs….I have walked away from God on many occasions.. I have experienced.. the occult… Wiccan…the Koran Mormon..Jehovah witness.. catholic… on and on…But in my belief gods word told me to remove these things from my home.. so I did.. i was then saved and baptized at the age of 40…and I still struggle with my faith daily… but I feel relief that i am finding my way back to where i feel I belong…..I am thrilled that you know and feel the love God has for you.. makes me smile 🙂 there’s no doubt you definitely have his favor…it’s beautiful … I love you Corinne As always…XOXOXOXO

  8. Corinne Rodrigues

    Thank you for sharing, Bonnie. As I mentioned in my response to Mary’s comment, I know it not your intention to offend. So don’t worry – we’re cool – and always will be. ♥
    I believe that the Bible is God’s word, Bonnie, but I also believe that we cannot and must not take every word literally. I believe that God reveals Himself in a variety of ways in our daily life – sometimes through His word, sometimes through a friend and always, always in our hearts when we take time to listen and meditate.
    We cannot separate our religion from our traditions and culture. Does the Bible tell us to have Christmas trees and Thanksgiving and turkeys? No. But it is a part of our culture and symbolic of our celebration of Jesus’ birth or gratitude for our blessings. Similarly the Church took prayer beads (part of the culture of many people around the world, including the region where Jesus was born) and made it a tool for prayer. The Rosary (in the Catholic tradition) is nothing but a tool to meditate on God’s word – with every prayer we are called to meditate on a particular aspect of the Gospel. I can’t see how such a thing can be evil? In the African Church, for example, dancing is a regular part of Sunday worship. Would that be tolerated and accepted in the West? Perhaps not – a cultural thing again. Does that make dancing in Church a sin? Where in God’s word does it say not to use a Rosary? It is an interpretation by some Christian groups who want to make the Catholic Church look evil. How sinful that would be, don’t you think? When we refuse to see the good in other religions and practices and think that only we have the way to God, as some Christians are prone to do – I believe that is a sin of pride. To me a sin is when we hurt the heart of God, by hurting ourselves or other people. My God (my understanding of Him) is too big to be offended by anything else.
    I know God cares about you infinitely, Bonnie and is at work in and through you. ♥♥♥

  9. tumultuousjourney

    A comment from the simple minded girl of a different faith. I believe that I am guided, that there is a plan, I believe that love, forgiveness, acceptance and faith are the answers for me. I have no opinion on anyone’s belief or faith but my own. I have recently found my spirituality again, after many years of thinking either i was God or there wasn’t one. I am happy again, with bouts of anger that is controlled by my acceptance that I control nothing besides my own choices. For me saying things like “I can’t” means,”wont”. I am learning all of these things and I am a work in progress, the important thing is my heart is at peace now more than it ever has been. Simple acknowledgement of something larger than myself has removed so much of life’s burdens from my shoulders. for instance, I spent months worried and praying(I have since asked and received forgiveness) That Brittany never get her children back, because she was a horrible mother from the beginning. that is not something that is up to me, how dare I pray that another woman lose her children. there is a plan, one I am not privy too. What I have been given is a gift, the gift to love and be loved by these children for as long as they are with me. to do my best to give them what they need and to ask for guidance and wisdom to make the right decisions for and about them, Only for the time I was given. I found I was living in fear of losing what was not mine in the first place, I have been doing the same thing with my own boys. What a relief to know it is not my job to fix all the woes of the people I love. My job is to simply love them. this is what my God has given me, along with many other people and things. I have been blessed continuously over my lifetime. the difference now is that I can see it.
    As for my angers, once I relaxed, took a deep breath, ( many deep breaths), I discovered that the anger was usually of my own doing. I set myself up for things, simple things, going places I know will frustrate me, then getting angry at others when things don’t go as I want them too. I knew they wouldn’t to begin with, that one is on me. Letting people into my home I know will piss me off after 10 minutes, that also is on me. Anger that people just don’t live the way I have told them they should, if they did their world would be fixed. Now I do my best to make better choices and to stop, step back and wait, before I do anything I feel any angst about at all. I have been shown lights so bright I cannot express it.
    All this to say in my unsolicited and immature way. I see “God” in everything and everyone of my life, the trees, the wolf, the eagle, the policeman, the Doctor, the homeless man on the street, the ocean, the mountains, the child laughing, it is much simpler for me to accept this than that a male entity has chosen my destiny. I know I am not God, but the God of my understanding is not nearly as complicated as I tried to make it to be either.
    I love all you ladies so much and you are part of my enlightenment. I am so happy to know you all and see all of us of different faiths carry on a conversation of love and a wish to understand, is what I call a huge blessing in my life.

    1. mhudakcollins Post author

      Jan, Welcome! So happy that you dropped in 🙂
      What a beautiful testimony to your faith! We cannot make judgement of another simply by what we ‘think’ their faith is. Everyone, even those within the same Church, seems to have a different perspective on God. I believe we are all a ‘work in progress’ as we are continuously growing in our faith.

      “I know I am not God, but the God of my understanding is not nearly as complicated as I tried to make it to be either.”
      This is such a powerful statement for me 🙂 For so long, I struggled with confusion. As a teenager, I lived in the Bible, spending hour upon hour reading. It was so clear back then to me. But then, something happened…I became involved with the wrong type of man and I spiraled downward from there. My faith wavered many a day, wondering how a loving God could allow such hateful things to happen in my life, to people close to me, and to other people in the world. Even as far as I wondered away from my faith, God never let me go. He kept me safe until it was in His plan that I return to my roots of faith and complete my journey here on earth. I too, made my faith more complicated than it actually was. I am back to studying my Bible, and it is clearer to me know more than ever. Of course, I am like any other with questions and queries. I am learning that there are many mysteries of life that we will never understand until God says it’s time.
      Jan, I have followed your struggles over the years, and have kept you in my prayers. I’m so happy that you have found forgiveness and the peace that comes along with that 🙂 God Bless you!!

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